Dr. Gayle Carson Shares: The 9 Secrets to Living Regret Free
Having also discovered the nine secrets for living a regret free life, and practicing them for a number of years, I decided I wanted to share them with women who either didn’t feel they had achieved them, gotten lost somewhere in their journey or needed an extra push after giving of themselves for so long.
The word “Secrets” is a very strong word and I don’t want to give the impression that my way is the only way. But in my focus groups, I found the biggest question I personally seemed to get was “How do you do what you do, with energy, focus, commitment and humor?” The second part of that was “Why don’t you ever stop?”
So I decided to analyze what it is that I exactly do. Believe it or not, it was not an easy task because most of what you and I do is unconscious. They are habits we have formed over the years and settled into most comfortably.
1. FEEL GOOD
The first thing you need to do is feel good. You can’t do that if you don’t take care of yourself. I realize many of you are in various physical shapes, but if you do eat right, get some exercise and take your medication properly, you will feel a whole lot better. I have met many people who are physically disadvantaged, and get along just fine because they work at it and do what it takes to stay there.
2. LOOK AROUND YOU
The second thing is to look at the people you hang around with. I realize there are those you must be around because you work with them, live with them, are related to them or have some other internal situation. However, those you choose to confide in, have fun with, go to for advice or just enjoy being around are usually positive, active, accomplished people.
3. WATCH FOR NEGATIVE TALK
Remember that five minutes of negative thinking takes the body 24 hours to recover from. So you need to make sure your attitude is always positive and your spirit feisty and exciting. You are who you are because you dare to be different and you take qualified chances that you’ve investigated.
4. EXPLORE WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE
There is no one else on earth like you. Love it—live it—and appreciate it. Be confident in what you do and how you do it. Enjoy the fact that you bring a personality and enthusiasm into whatever you do with your own special brand.
Breathe life into everything you do. Get excited about your day, your work, your month and your year. You must get up with a smile on your face and joy for how you will spend the next 16 hours. It is up to you to put energy into these hours to produce the results you want.
6. KEEP UP YOUR PERSONAL GROWTH
To advance and be interesting, you must also continue your own personal growth. It can be through CD’s or DVD’s, actual classes, online learning, reading, seminars/workshops or any number of other ways. As you learn, you remain fresh and discover new things about yourself. As you find out those new things, you will develop additional friendships and be amazed at where everything will take you.
7. CONTROL YOUR OWN LIFE
If you don’t control your life, someone else will. You’ve heard it before and I’ll say it again. Goals and time management are important. You need both small and large goals and you need a time frame that tells you exactly how much time to spend where. It might sound regimented but you can’t get anything done if you don’t do the above. It’s as simple as that.
8. STRIVE FOR BALANCE
This is different for everyone and changes all the time. What was good for you 20 years ago with a family, job and all your volunteer activities is not the same when you have an empty nest, are widowed or living by yourself. You also may be a caretaker for elderly parents which is time consuming and stressful.
9. LIVE EACH DAY TO THE FULLEST
Last, is your plan for daily living. If you don’t have a daily routine, nothing gets done. You always have to have a little flexibility, but there are certain things you must do every day just like you brush your teeth, take a shower or eat. Don’t put things off. Get up and get it done. A friend of mine writes for an hour every day and has several books published because of it.
It’s up to you whether you want to follow these secrets. But to be a “Spunky Old Broad” this is how I do it. These things are simple but not without discipline. They are easy but take focus. They are steps to be climbed, but waiting at the top is everything you ever wanted.
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